My Religion

There is nothing I hold more sacred than my love of mankind. Second to it are my thoughts on my religious beliefs. They are almost one in the same but not quite. I read a CNN.com blog that made me think on them again. 

My response to the blog was quick, automatic and natural. These words poured out of me.

I do not need an organized religion, a group of people, or even a single person to affirm my own beliefs. My spiritualness, my religion, my beliefs and knowledge exist not because of others’ beliefs, but in spite of them as the blogger aptly pointed out the abuses of religion. I do not fear another’s belief system. I do not need anyone else to agree with my belief system to make me happy and secure in my own thoughts. I love and care more deeply and broadly than any formal religion that espouses exclusivity. Free from pushing one religious view, I am more genuine than any missionary, clergyman, reverend, pastor, rabbi, caliph, abbot, deacon or nun. I do not sit on any fence every religion has built. I freely, happily walk through every gate the blogger’s beliefs have closed. Though I have no need of it, thank you for the reminder of my good and wonderful decision, Alan Miller.

 

 

 

 

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The Sun Arrives

My heart aflame in all your glory, burning as hot as yours.

Your searing flames lick at my soul.

I can no more resist than wish to be burned entirely.

Trying to hide behind wisps of opacity, you found me.

Your light opens shadows where I prefer to hide.

Calling me out to reveal the truth.

Your entrance beckons a new day.

Commit yourself to thine own demise and follow me.

Since you dare to light my pain, I’ll race you to the other horizon!

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First Decision of 2012

Not 30 minutes into the year and it is already marked with an important decision. That decision is no looking back. No revisits or re-examinations of mistakes and missteps. Time was used in 2011 for analysis of those things and only that came into 2012 with me.

No big changes are being planned for the new year. My interests, pursuits and activities remain the same and will continue.  As a consummate learner, I’m sure to pick up new things, new ideas in the coming year but they aren’t on a list because I don’t know what they are yet.

Every year holds obstacles and challenges, good times and sadness. 2012 will hold plenty of all of that and I can only hope to meet it with understanding and peace.

Looking forward is so much more fun. What didn’t get done in 2011 has 365 days of 2012 for the possibility. What went wrong in 2011 is done and gone, and 2012 holds hope for another try.

All of 2012 belongs to 2012, the present and future.

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Pass the Hushpuppies

Among the reasons I love Fall, the number one is oysters. Cooler weather means oyster season. The oyster is the ugly, stinking of mud bivalve. I love them. They are by far my favorite thing to eat and have been since I was 6-years old. The only thing that comes even close is my grandmother’s collard greens. But that’s another culinary story.

Coastal North Carolina is fortunate to have what are called barrier islands. They protect the main coastline and provide inlets, waterways and protected waters from the harsh wave action of the ocean. Along these waterways, in the muddy shallows, my favorite delectable bivalves reside in the luxury of mud and seawater, living and multiplying as the tide dictates.

My earliest recollection of eating oysters was at our house at Lake Waccamaw circa 1975. We ate them inside the house! Something we never did again once we moved from the lake to where my parents live now. I still love their taste, but I first fell in love with how hard I had to work to get the tasty little morsels out of their shells. Mainly, because I was good at it.

I see people shuck oysters with gloves and rags, but from the beginning I held them in my bare hand and, at first, had only a butter knife to use to open them. My stepdad encouraged me as often as possible to slow down, eat a hushpuppy, take a break, but I loved just shucking and chucking.

Photo Credit: Oyster Cluster & Oyster Knife by Doug DuCap

News of possibly having a couple of bushels while we’re in NC for the holidays has me reminiscing about cold evenings standing around a table in my great grandmother’s smokehouse, now a garden shed, and shucking with aunts and uncles. Even before that, we ate them in a more modern shed my stepdad had elevated on railroad ties to protect from the tidal Thally’s Branch, the creek that runs behind their house.

Our family eats oysters on a wet roast, meaning they are steamed over a pot of water over an outside fire until their shells pop open just a bit. Well, most of them do any way until they start getting cold again and close up. My favorites ones are 4″ long and juicy. No sauce, lemon or fancy fixings are needed. I love them warm enough for their salt juice to sweeten with the meat. Their color ranges from beige when swollen from their hot juices to mud gray well, because there’s still mud inside the shell. Somehow the grit never bothers me.

Holding an oyster to shuck it isn’t for anyone not wanting to get their fingers dirty or cut. When they close up, a simple twist of a good oyster knife or even a sturdy butter knife opens up the most stubborn oyster like turning a key. The edges of the shell are sharp as cut glass at times.

Waiting between pots once you’ve eat the previous pot is the time to socialize, pass the hushpuppies and empty the full buckets of empty oyster shells. If it is cold, it’s a good time to warm up wet, cut hands by the fire but also down a good bit of Southern sweet tea to cut the salt puckering the soft tissue of your mouth. The last pot is always something to savor and it is customary to slow down to let the cook catch up on a few.

No, there’s nothing quite like shucking wet, muddy, sharp oysters in 35-40 degrees standing at a table covered in newspaper and saltwater. Many Fall and Winter weekends of my youth have left me with what feels like a thousand papercuts on my hands and a belly full of muddy, salty, slimy, chewy scrumptious oysters.

I can’t wait!!

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The Best Christmas Gift to Ourselves

The Christmas shopping season is upon us. As we make our lists and debate what to purchase for the people in our lives, consider spending most or all of your money on U.S. made items or local services.

This article from The Oregonian about buying American this year contains similar sentiments I received in an forwarded email from a co-worker last week. With issues of employment nationwide, it makes sense to spend locally, spend on goods and services that employee people here in America. It is an important issue to think through to action.

Our national security is intertwined with economic security. This article from The Christian Science Monitor identifies publicly what we’ve always suspected: we are under attack by Russia and China.  They’re not using missiles and bullets but they are hitting us where we live: our economic security. We all can play a part of mobilizing against these attacks, especially against China. Stop buying products made in China. Stop sending our hard-earned money to Chinese businessmen.

Photo Credit: ActiveRain.com photo of Front Street, Wilmington, NC

It seems an impossible task. Everywhere we turn, Chinese-made products adorn the shelves of our stores. Try searching online for U.S.-made alternatives. Consider gifts of local services people use every day. Most people don’t need more stuff, but they need to be employed and remain employed. Send a message to local and national businesses that carry Chinese made products that you want to buy only U.S. made products. Here’s a list of sites that might help you get started:

http://www.usaonly.us/

http://www.toysmadeinamerica.com/

http://www.angelfire.com/nv/micronations/madeinusa.html

Some products have many components that come from multiple places around the world and get assembled in another place. Take for instance, the iPhone4. It is an international product that employees people in the U.S. though it is assembled in China. Does it mean you shouldn’t buy it? It’s up to you. A higher percentage of what you spend on it stays in the U.S. compared to other phones or items. I’m just saying you should stop and think about it during this Christmas gift-buying season.

It won’t be easy but we didn’t fall into this pit overnight. We’ve gradually walked down the steep slope of the pit since the 1970′s. We can walk back up that slope, slowly but surely one Christmas gift at a time.

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This Year’s Thanksgiving: Citizenship

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A year ago today, someone I know became a U.S. citizen. While it made all the practical sense in the world since he plans to probably live in the U.S. for the rest of his life, making the decision and taking the steps to become a citizen required effort. A person born in another country willing to become a U.S. citizen is a fascination to me.

I take my U.S. citizenship that I was born with very seriously. Though I lament from time to time that I can’t safely travel internationally to certain areas as an American, I feel fortunate to be one. Some Americans take their citizenship for granted since they were born with it. I would be hard pressed to give up my rights to my citizenship even if I decided to live overseas for a long period of time.

I don’t identify my citizenship with every elected leader, every policy decision or every fellow American that doesn’t vote. I think of my citizenship as a ticket of hope. As an American, I have the right to try for so many opportunities not afforded some other peoples on earth. I was reminded of this with the story of  an arrest in Iran. Our land of hope has allowed so many dreams to come true. That is why I love my country and love when someone else is willing to pledge their allegiance to help perpetuate that hope.

This is a salute to my fellow U.S. citizens that were not born here. Thank you for coming here, working through the red tape and becoming an American. You make me proud of my own citizenship and remind me not to take it for granted. My ancestors from Ireland, England and France were like you. My Native American ancestors did not welcome them for the most part but I welcome you with open arms. We are better together.

I will spend Thanksgiving this year thinking about all the people coming together to share, to be neighbors and friends, and what that means for the bonds of humanity. We get caught up in Thanksgiving being about food, football and well, more food, but it’s really about togetherness.  Fellow citizens, friends from other countries, family I won’t see until next month or next year, let the Thanksgiving meal bond you in citizenship, in friendship and love.

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Shame of the Nittany Lion

Seventy-five percent of the time, I like to wear an oversized t-shirt to bed. Yeah, I know. TMI. Tonight I grabbed from the bottom of a stack of shirts what I thought was an old non-profit organization one to wear but it was THIS one that I pulled out. I forgot I had it. I was surprised and repulsed.

In light of recent events, looking at the shirt made me angry. It is a subject I have written about before because it is one all too close to me.

Sexual abuse of children is a disgusting subject polite society would rather not speak about, especially those of older generations. I know. I have witnessed the pain of multiple generations abused and heard it hushed in close circles, seen it hidden behind stoic faces, and swept into the corner never to be dealt with again. But these were the victims that hid behind their shame. These were victims making decisions on how to deal with what had been done to them.

To find out an alleged perpetrator of some very horrible acts was known to his supervisors and those people did not report anything to the authorities is grossly appalling. Alleged incidences took place on the job, on Pennsylvania state property and no one in charge took enough offense of what happened to make sure it would never occur again. Anyone who knew of the first reported act is guilty of suborning all possible future despicable acts by what sounds like a sexual predator of children.

My first thought was to cut up the shirt. No, I stopped to think. I’d rather burn it. But then my thoughts slowly turned to all the good people that have been associated with Penn State for over 155 years. More than 99% of students, faculty, administrators and athletic coaches that have come through Penn State did not commit nor cover up these alleged foul acts by one of their own. It is a wrong rooted in fallacy of logic to hate Penn State, their school, their accomplishments, their team, their existence because of the sad moral decrepitude of a handful of people.

As my soliloquy with the victim turns to commiseration of memories, I choose to hide the t-shirt back at the bottom of the pile to hush my angry mind.  I hope healing can begin for the victims of the awful acts, for administrators that must undo the wrong that was done by the inactions of a few and for Penn State to carry on the great mission of higher education for so many of the past, present and future. I hope one day I will find that t-shirt again and discover healed wounds.

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